Ghosting After a Breakup

You’ve been dumped, you’ve gotten all your belongings, you’ve gotten a sense of closure, now it’s time to go ghost after the break up. (You’re going into no contact.)

Going ghost, or no contact, is not to teach your dumper a lesson. It is to teach YOU a lesson. 

It’s not to manipulate their psychology.
It’s to manipulate your own world, so that you can heal, give yourself self love, and upgrade your spirit.

Cut off all communication with your ex, this includes phone calls, texts, email, in person interactions, and NO social media of any kind.

This is the mature and graceful thing to do after you’ve been dumped. Your dumper lost attraction for you. Even if they still love you, they made a choice. Respect the choice. 

By the way, if your dumper betrayed you with infidelity, you don’t have to necessarily respect the choice, but certainly respect yourself and give yourself the value that you deserve. 

Going into no contact after a breakup can be a healthy choice for because it offers:

Emotional protection: No contact can help you avoid further emotional hurt or drama.

Space to heal: It gives you time and space to focus on your own healing and growth.

Clarity: No contact can help you gain clarity on your feelings and the relationship, as you introspect. 

Of course, nothing is ever black and white, each human alone has so many variables, and there are 2 people, plus the relationship variables. 

Note that going ghost may result in:

Difficulty in closure: If your dumper did not provide you with any sort of explanation when they left, no contact may make it harder to find closure or resolve unfinished business.

Social awkwardness: If you have mutual friends or social circles, no contact may create awkwardness.

Missed opportunities: No contact may mean missing opportunities for growth or resolution through communication, moreso if this breakup occurred as the result of an argument in the heat of the moment. 

But for most “classic” breakup, it can be highly beneficial for you to disappear. 

Take the time that you need to grieve the loss. Do it in your own own style, and there is no rush. 

Talk about your feelings with your support circle, examples being a therapist, your trusted friends, trusted family. You can vent about what happened, but after you get that out, try to keep the focus on you, and not your dumper. Do this all in your own world. 

Get a notebook for this process so that you can heal on the down low. If writing is how you channel creativity, even better.

Find ways to get creative with anything. Each human on this earth is a creator. If you have not discovered (yet) what you enjoy creating, now more than ever, is the time to figure that out.

Warning though: if social media is a creative outlet for you, and you want to express it on your platforms, do these displays on pirvate/only you. Do not publicly create posts on social media with the intention that you want your dumper to see it. You are supposed to be a ghost, and tactics like that mean that you are giving energy and power to someone else. NOW is the time that you need your own energy for your own rejuvenation.

What are your feelings, what do you need, what boundaries do you need to set, what can you do to love yourself? What things can you do for yourself that no other person, object, or circumstance can replace? Fill your own voids.

This is going to sound contradictory coming from my own post, but take other peoples' advice with a grain of salt. My intention on making posts is tfor you to start a conversation with yourself. If any of my videos ignite a lightbulb inside your head, use that . Listen to your own body, and do what feels right.

During this time of a break up, the pain and hurt that you’re feeling can be used as a portal from this. From pain, comes growth.